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Jo Lein's avatar

We are constantly negotiating through our actions—or inactions. Thanks for the reminders!

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Admired Leadership's avatar

Indeed. Thanks, Jo Lein.

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Robert Ta's avatar

Relationships thrive on balance: silence can preserve peace, but confrontation can preserve respect. Thanks for the great read!

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Anthony Armstrong's avatar

My football coaches would say, "You're either coaching it or you're letting it happen!"

As a player, that message meant we need to up our attention to detail and be accountable to our teammates.

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Admired Leadership's avatar

That is interesting, Anthony, that your coach encouraged his players to be coaching as often as possible.

Do you think he had a higher percentage of his players become coaches themselves than what might be typical?

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Anthony Armstrong's avatar

I'm not sure how many went into coaching. That quote was more so from the coach to his other coaches, but I knew that he was upset about something. If we weren't executing the play or technique like we were coached to do that point was made.

The ones who did get into coaching had a higher attention to detail that the rest of them

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Kathy Wu Brady's avatar

Going meta is so important. What I mean is talking about all the things we assume and unconsciously endorse each day.

Rules of engagement between people is such a great one to highlight.

Another is decision making and how we arrive at the decisions we make.

Most of us just do what we do to make a decision and never think twice about our patterns and how others factor in.

As a result, the people around us are either left confused or guessing which doesn’t help us improve or optimize how others can engage with us to make the best decisions.

Loved this post! Thanks for sharing!

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How My Restaurant Works's avatar

Rules evolve in silence as much as they do in conversation. Addressing small moments early can feel awkward, but it’s how we keep relationships healthy and patterns productive. It's about balance—speaking up without turning every hiccup into a battle.

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