You are absolutely correct. Our notion that a some unspecified age we just are who we are with no way to change is one of the greatest lies we tell ourselves. There is no reason you cannot learn new and beneficial habits and behaviors throughout your life. You can even become smarter.
I use this Skills Framework to help me determine how much effort I will need to put into making gains: Intrapersonal, Interpersonal, Leadership, and Business. Moving left to right in this list will determine the level of difficulty in making changes (intrapersonal being the hardest, business skills being the easiest). This makes sense given intrapersonal skills are developed earliest in life and leadership and business skills are developed later. Like the saying goes, "Old habits die hard." But it is possible to change. Through daily insight, reflection, and deliberate practice, we can begin close the gap between the leader we want to be (identity) and the leader that we actually are (reputation). Nobody said it was going to be easy. There is no magic sauce when it comes to being the best.
Intrapersonal is mainly about understanding oneself - self-awareness, self-regulation, self-management, flexibility, trust (trusting others - not being seen by others as being trustworthy). Interpersonal is about understanding and working with others - building relationships, being seen as trustworthy, listening, persuading. You'll see different cross-over of skills, but I tend to separate them into intra (within/inside) and inter (between/among).
You are absolutely correct. Our notion that a some unspecified age we just are who we are with no way to change is one of the greatest lies we tell ourselves. There is no reason you cannot learn new and beneficial habits and behaviors throughout your life. You can even become smarter.
Yes, and the lie is reinforced when we convince ourselves that our authentic self is somehow different than what we do on a daily basis.
I use this Skills Framework to help me determine how much effort I will need to put into making gains: Intrapersonal, Interpersonal, Leadership, and Business. Moving left to right in this list will determine the level of difficulty in making changes (intrapersonal being the hardest, business skills being the easiest). This makes sense given intrapersonal skills are developed earliest in life and leadership and business skills are developed later. Like the saying goes, "Old habits die hard." But it is possible to change. Through daily insight, reflection, and deliberate practice, we can begin close the gap between the leader we want to be (identity) and the leader that we actually are (reputation). Nobody said it was going to be easy. There is no magic sauce when it comes to being the best.
Could you list a few intrapersonal skills vs. interpersonal ones?
Would think many people would lump those all into the same category.
Intrapersonal is mainly about understanding oneself - self-awareness, self-regulation, self-management, flexibility, trust (trusting others - not being seen by others as being trustworthy). Interpersonal is about understanding and working with others - building relationships, being seen as trustworthy, listening, persuading. You'll see different cross-over of skills, but I tend to separate them into intra (within/inside) and inter (between/among).