In close and long-standing relationships, both parties expect that whatever really matters to one person will matter equally to the other person. This is true no matter how small the issue, item, or grievance. For this reason, small issues and irritants can sometimes become big issues over time, as they become symbolic in the relationship.
So good! Thank you. I've heard this called "Enemy Images". I catch myself all to swiftly re-categorizing people as "enemies" when they "transgress my expectations" enough times. I've been surprised recently to become aware of this mechanism triggering even in very close relationships. Of course, as my conscious mind becomes aware, I am able to reject the notion and reroute. Anybody else surprised to see this happen in your own experience?
So good! Thank you. I've heard this called "Enemy Images". I catch myself all to swiftly re-categorizing people as "enemies" when they "transgress my expectations" enough times. I've been surprised recently to become aware of this mechanism triggering even in very close relationships. Of course, as my conscious mind becomes aware, I am able to reject the notion and reroute. Anybody else surprised to see this happen in your own experience?