Some leaders like to disagree or offer a competing view so much that they jump the gun. They don’t wait to understand, listen, or even for the other party to finish speaking. Their minds work so quickly that they can’t postpone their need to express what they’re thinking, even for a moment. While this is a sign of a facile mind, it also puts them at a distinct disadvantage.
It is amazing how profound little behaviors like this can be... but only for people who are ready to implement them.
I know I advocate too much. I know I tend to get defensive too quickly. I know I open my mouth to argue reflexively -- so this suggestion comes at exactly the right time for me.
I have used it and it works like a charm. It is less threatening as when asking direct questions. It has its cons, namely saying it to people who take forever to get to a point. You might need to do a lot of editing of the words coming in :D
I am currently working through Gregory Hay's translation of Marcus' Meditations. I was reading through the Debts and Lessons chapter last Tuesday after the AL Study session. This one behavior jumped out at me when I read it - Book 1 Debts and Lessons - 16. Antoninus (Stepdad): His searching questions at meetings. A kind of single-mindedness, almost, never content with first impressions, or breaking off the discussion prematurely.
This is brilliant - but only if adopted.
It is amazing how profound little behaviors like this can be... but only for people who are ready to implement them.
I know I advocate too much. I know I tend to get defensive too quickly. I know I open my mouth to argue reflexively -- so this suggestion comes at exactly the right time for me.
Great insights and actionable suggestions. Thank you.
I have used it and it works like a charm. It is less threatening as when asking direct questions. It has its cons, namely saying it to people who take forever to get to a point. You might need to do a lot of editing of the words coming in :D
We took a moment to unpack this Field Notes entry in a 15 minute discussion this morning:
https://twitter.com/AdmiredLeaders/status/1653396560405823497
I am currently working through Gregory Hay's translation of Marcus' Meditations. I was reading through the Debts and Lessons chapter last Tuesday after the AL Study session. This one behavior jumped out at me when I read it - Book 1 Debts and Lessons - 16. Antoninus (Stepdad): His searching questions at meetings. A kind of single-mindedness, almost, never content with first impressions, or breaking off the discussion prematurely.