On any team, promoting yourself and taking credit for the results you achieve requires walking a fine line. Leaders frown upon team members who hold themselves above the team, while colleagues distrust those who want to draw attention to themselves.
Great bit of advice for those of us who have always been taught to not talk about yourself at all - only to have the loud mouth in the room always get the attention we've been told shouldn't come their way.
I've been struggling to find the right balance of what to share/update my leader on during 1:1s. It contains some of this, but I like the structure you provide here. Going to reframe my 1:1 to follow this 1234 format.
I wasn't. That was the problem. Just winging it for the most part. I like your framework because I can start mentally filling it in during the week. I'm also going to recommend it to one of my direct report managers - we're not getting past transactional stuff during our 1:1s. Most helpful!
I am a 78 year old new member of a property Owners Assn. I am trying to serve not rule my neighbors. This is a diverse community, with home owners and campers. Any advice or help is welcome. When I hire people , they have to be smarter than me and work harder than. me,
The “work harder than you” could be troublesome. If those you lead get the idea there are parts of the job you’re not willing to do because they’re beneath you. There are plenty of assumptions that could be made about that kind of behavior.
The work harder part is that at 78, working harder than me cannot be that hard. And the up side is they will be the next leader. The ones that work harder, will point out my faults to make their job easier. And be the next leader. Leaders learn by doing.
Update - Just finished my 1:1 with my direct leader using the 4-bullet points you provided in this post - I created a 4-box template. Great way to organize and structure the conversation.
Great bit of advice for those of us who have always been taught to not talk about yourself at all - only to have the loud mouth in the room always get the attention we've been told shouldn't come their way.
Hope it's something that can be put into practice.
Another encouragement to adopt the "we" language as quickly as you can.
That is what leadership looks for when deciding who is ready for the next move.
Exactly. That came up when we wrote about it here:
https://admiredleadership.substack.com/p/a-shift-in-your-leadership-mindset
I've been struggling to find the right balance of what to share/update my leader on during 1:1s. It contains some of this, but I like the structure you provide here. Going to reframe my 1:1 to follow this 1234 format.
What framework were you using prior? Is there a specific reason it felt lacking to you?
I wasn't. That was the problem. Just winging it for the most part. I like your framework because I can start mentally filling it in during the week. I'm also going to recommend it to one of my direct report managers - we're not getting past transactional stuff during our 1:1s. Most helpful!
I am a 78 year old new member of a property Owners Assn. I am trying to serve not rule my neighbors. This is a diverse community, with home owners and campers. Any advice or help is welcome. When I hire people , they have to be smarter than me and work harder than. me,
The “be smarter than you” is a great goal.
The “work harder than you” could be troublesome. If those you lead get the idea there are parts of the job you’re not willing to do because they’re beneath you. There are plenty of assumptions that could be made about that kind of behavior.
The work harder part is that at 78, working harder than me cannot be that hard. And the up side is they will be the next leader. The ones that work harder, will point out my faults to make their job easier. And be the next leader. Leaders learn by doing.
We took a few minutes to unpack this idea.
Here is the archived audio if you’d like to listen in: https://twitter.com/i/spaces/1BdGYywAWAvGX
Update - Just finished my 1:1 with my direct leader using the 4-bullet points you provided in this post - I created a 4-box template. Great way to organize and structure the conversation.