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Mar 27, 2023Liked by Admired Leadership

I'd like to think the only reason I would really dislike a person is because of a lack of shared values. If that is the case, there is probably something I missed in the hiring stage.

If I dislike something because of a few quirks that just get on my nerves, my only real choice is to get to know them better, right? I'm not going to be effective at influencing those quirks without relationship.

This is really about team morale right?

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Yes - you surely won't be able to effectively stink-eye someone into changing.

And trying to is bad news for the entire team.

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Yes! All the more difficult when this person is exceptional at what they do.

I agree, with Steve, the core values is the true lever in determining likability. Learning more about the person and what makes them tick is valuable effort to expend.

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Certainly. If they are an exceptional performer, as you say Giuliano, there is likely something to focus your appreciation on.

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Not just true for the office.

If you can’t set boundaries on your spouse’s bad habits, you’ll end up resenting them and the relationship will lose intimacy and trust.

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