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charles accurso's avatar

Powerful!!

Particularly for those of us trying to decide

On the next chapters in our lives

Good job!

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David C Morris's avatar

Re: Moves them toward depression - might be a bit of a stretch. Definitely toward more stress, maybe even some anxiety. I thought about why I do this and it seems to be to gain back some control (I decide to do this new thing) and creates an opportunity to procrastinate on the other things for a bit longer. Great advice on the bullseye prioritization. I work in a shared services function so most of the time I cannot say no. However, I have been getting better at saying, "Yes, but..." as in Yes, I can work on this project, but it will have to wait until I finish this other priority.

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Admired Leadership's avatar

Most people, especially when young, will have a default to yes.

That seems to be what is understood by business culture.

Do you think this is more than just anecdotal?

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David C Morris's avatar

I'd take that bet. It is most likely true. Generally, people want to be liked by others and avoid confrontation. It is easier to tell someone yes than no. I haven't fully figured out saying 'no' in my day job, but I've gotten a lot better at it in my personal life.

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