People have an odd response when they feel out of balance and without control over their time. They add things to an already overflowing plate. At the precise moment of unhealthy imbalance, they adopt a pet, take up a new sport, volunteer for a local charity, agree to serve on a board, move to a new home. Just to keep up requires giving up sleep, working longer hours, and disappointing just about everyone in their circle as they fail to keep commitments. If it wasn’t so painful to watch, it would be humorous.
Re: Moves them toward depression - might be a bit of a stretch. Definitely toward more stress, maybe even some anxiety. I thought about why I do this and it seems to be to gain back some control (I decide to do this new thing) and creates an opportunity to procrastinate on the other things for a bit longer. Great advice on the bullseye prioritization. I work in a shared services function so most of the time I cannot say no. However, I have been getting better at saying, "Yes, but..." as in Yes, I can work on this project, but it will have to wait until I finish this other priority.
I'd take that bet. It is most likely true. Generally, people want to be liked by others and avoid confrontation. It is easier to tell someone yes than no. I haven't fully figured out saying 'no' in my day job, but I've gotten a lot better at it in my personal life.
Powerful!!
Particularly for those of us trying to decide
On the next chapters in our lives
Good job!
Re: Moves them toward depression - might be a bit of a stretch. Definitely toward more stress, maybe even some anxiety. I thought about why I do this and it seems to be to gain back some control (I decide to do this new thing) and creates an opportunity to procrastinate on the other things for a bit longer. Great advice on the bullseye prioritization. I work in a shared services function so most of the time I cannot say no. However, I have been getting better at saying, "Yes, but..." as in Yes, I can work on this project, but it will have to wait until I finish this other priority.
Most people, especially when young, will have a default to yes.
That seems to be what is understood by business culture.
Do you think this is more than just anecdotal?
I'd take that bet. It is most likely true. Generally, people want to be liked by others and avoid confrontation. It is easier to tell someone yes than no. I haven't fully figured out saying 'no' in my day job, but I've gotten a lot better at it in my personal life.