When others offer help for our struggles and problems, we usually benefit from the wisdom, the caring, and the assistance they provide. Thanks to the goodwill of those ready to lend a hand, the help we receive is typically a godsend, enabling us to sort things out or dig out of a hole.
In the cases I know of the person was trying to buy acceptance by doing things for others. They also may not have a good self-image so they're externalizing their sources of validation which is why they go overboard in being 'helpful' by volunteering, doing things for others, etc.
People that 'bury people in an avalanche of helpfulness' have issues of their own and need to talk to a professional counselor to find out why.
True enough… I’d suppose there are motives that range everywhere from codependency to intentional saboteurs when you spot this behavior.
I’d guess mostly it’s well meaning people who don’t know when the proper moment is to click in to commitment mode once a decision has been made.
When do you see it the most, Tim?
In the cases I know of the person was trying to buy acceptance by doing things for others. They also may not have a good self-image so they're externalizing their sources of validation which is why they go overboard in being 'helpful' by volunteering, doing things for others, etc.