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Apr 20, 2023Liked by Admired Leadership

It seems this also works top down too. I had a commander in the military when I was a Captain that trained us to think through problems and come up with a couple of possible solutions before we brought the issue to his attention. He did that by first asking some variation on "How would you solve this?" after the problem is presented. At the time he was a Major (Lt. Col. select) and eventually retired as a General (my most memorable leader in the military). I know that's a different behavior which seems connected to this one with the only difference being which direction the question is directed (you up the chain; or you down).

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Absolutely, Larry. Questions carry feedback very well , both up and down.

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Apr 20, 2023Liked by Admired Leadership

This is a real spicy one!

Listen to the discussion that unpacks this Field Notes entry from today:

https://twitter.com/AdmiredLeaders/status/1649045727786545153

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I'm starting to see more and more Cognitive Behavioral Therapy techniques being applied outside of the clinical setting and more in the performance coaching space. Read a book a while back, Cognitive Behavioral Coaching: A Guide to Problem-Solving and Personal Development by Neenan and Dryden.

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Apr 20, 2023Liked by Admired Leadership, Michael Gale

I love this great strategy since we likely only see a few trees and they are trying to make the best decisions for the whole forest. I think we do have to be careful that our questions aren't passive-aggressive or sarcastic.

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Absolutely, Ryan.

Every once in a while, you might actually hear sound reasoning for what seems like bad behavior. But you'll only get to that through genuine curiosity.

Your admonition about passive aggressive tones is spot on.

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