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Kathleen's avatar

Would like to have read an offering of “best practices” - beyond the reference of treat others as you would want to be treated.

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Steve's avatar

This makes me think back to my own layoff experience. It was a unique one but it was absolutely governed by the need to remain harmonious. So much so that it completely sacrificed the truth. I was treated kindly, because there was a strong possibility that I could split the organization apart if I discussed the reasons for my dismissal openly. I didn't want to see the organization suffer, so I became complicit in some deceit in order for the truth not to do more damage.

It didn't work.

Looking back I can't imagine what would have worked.

It didn't work because the organization had several strains of hypocrisy woven into the fabric of its structure. My dismissal and the attempts to cover it up only caused more damage from people asking simple questions.

What needed to happen did happen, but now in an uncontrolled way. It happened in a way that turned the organization's harmony into outright lies and sabotage after I was gone.

Makes me think that NICE acts aren't always the KIND ones. The most KIND thing to do for me and the org would have been to let the truth out instead of trying to keep it under wraps.

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